Soon after the Carpet had been reinstalled in our new home, we began to slowly move all of our belongings into the new home in Christenbury Estates. The furniture we specially ordered was not due to deliver until late October or early November, so we had to basically learn to rough it for a while. We used our closet shelving to mainly store items that we would normally place in a triple dresser or Stand-up Chest. As for our office furniture, it was not due to arrive until after the first of the year in January of 2007. So we decided to purchase some inexpensive 8 foot long folding tables – 2 for each office so was had a way to set up our computers and FAX Machines.
During December and January of 2006, I spent a lot of time going back and forth to see my dad. He had been in and out of the hospital numerous times. My Dad, Peter, was diagnosed with Bladder Cancer and he was in CHF or Congestive Heart Failure. My dad also was in AFIB and had to be Cardioverted numerous times to get his Heart back in rhythm. Dad also suffered from High Blood Pressure as well as a touch of Diabetes. During our visits, my Dad knew he was going down fast. He said to me son, here is the only book you will need day I close my eyes. I looked at him like he was crazy. He said to me Son, this is everyone you need to notify, here are my last wishes and I also took the liberty to prepare my obituary for the Washington Post. One of Dad’s major request was to be buried in Arlington National Cemetery. My Dad was a 41 year Army Veteran whom served 2 tours of Vietnam, was involved in the Korean Conflict as well as spent time in Austria and Germany. Dad was an Army Combat Civil Engineer Demolitions Expert – mildly put – he loved to Blow Shit Up!! LMAO. Unfortunately, on February 6th, 2007, my Dad basically died in my arms. Unlike with my mom, I watched my dad basically take his last breath. I had such mixed emotions. I was just truly starting to get to know my dad as an adult. He had such an amazing sense of humor and was always playing practical jokes. I did not want to lose my dad, but he was in so much pain. He would winch even when someone would accidentally brush his hand or arm. The Cancer had spread to the bone marrow as well as Dad’s bones. The last words my dad said to me and I quote, “Son, I always loved you”. He looked at his caretaker and said the same to her. Dad gradually slipped into a coma for the next 6-8 hours. She left to go home and I stayed with my dad until he took his last breath. I left with my head low, tears in my eyes. and decided to go back to his home were I was staying while visiting Dad. Just as instructed, that very night, I pulled the final file Dad had prepared. OMG, he had everything so organized. If anyone knows me, I am the exact same way. I thought I was the most organized person in the US until I truly proceeded into the almanac dad had written for me when he passed. I began to notify everyone of Dad’s passing including Arlington National Cemetery. The biggest scare is he could have been placed on a very long waiting list. Needless to say, I received a call from the Major Sergeant that handled burials and just so happened, we only had to wait a few days to bury dad. I was able to accomplish everything my dad wanted for his final wishes. I gave my Dad an honor burial in Arlington National Cemetery, which he absolutely deserved for his time spent in the US Army. My dad also received the Bronze Star. My only regret as a young child was not having my Mom and Dad raise me like a normal family. I have no regrets on how I was brought up as a child and then a young man, but after experiencing what family was like with my present wife , my 2 brother in-laws, which I consider to be like brothers and Mom and Dad, it is an amazing feeling. Family is everything. I absolutely love it when we can jam about 9-10 of us in a 3 bedroom home and 1 and 1/2 bathrooms and still live to talk about it!! After Dad’s passing, I had a lot of problems with his wife and kids. They were the most envious and greedy 2 ladies I ever met in my life. As much as my Dad did for the two of them, I faced so many issues about money and the valuables my dad had purchased in his home. Dad’s wife was such a sweet lady. She had developed Alzheimer’s and my dad had to place her in a nursing home about 9 months before he passed. I was able to get a lawyer involved but due to the fact Dad’s wife was still alive, most of the funds from selling the home were left to take care of her in the nursing home. I understood, but it was mainly the way my two step sisters went about it!! I think down deep they used my dad for money and didn’t give a hoot about him. I never saw them come visit my dad not one time, but as soon as he passed, they had their hand out like it was pay day – such a sad time – Money not only can be the root of all evil but the ruination of a family!!
Will to Live – Anger, Lust, & Gluttony – Part 52